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"When are you chatting with Haim?" a message pops up. "My request was to ask if I can become their extra sister."

There's just one problem: The sender also desires to be Haim's additional sibling. What's more, we are in plentiful company. Multiple famous admirers have publicly coveted the honor.

It's clear a special quality is at play. The siblings Este, Danielle and Alana began their musical journey doing sets at small eateries with their family. Today, they are repeated Grammy hopefuls.

In the tradition of the most iconic bands, they're a inseparable gang. Their videos frequently depict them striding in unison down the streets of Los Angeles. On stage, they jam with such boundless exuberance you inevitably think, "I'd love to be a piece of that, too."

"The amount of times on tour that fans approached us and said, 'Watching you live, I bought a drum kit'," states Alana, the most junior of the sisters. "That's the greatest compliment. That is recognition in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can encourage others to start a band."

"So anyone is invited to be the honorary Haim sister."

Grammy Nod

The band are speaking from home, where they're taking a pause after an extensive tour in promoting their new album, I Quit.

They're right now processing the news it's been in the running for a top rock honor at the Grammys – with Haim the first all-woman band ever in the running for the trophy.

"I watch the nominations every year, so it almost feels like an out-of-body experience when your name is announced," explains Alana. "I immediately called my sisters to say, 'Did I hear this right or am I hallucinating'?"

The importance of the nomination isn't lost on the sisters.

"We truly set out to make a rock record this time, so it's a huge achievement," continues Alana. "However we're just grateful for the women that inspired us."

Personal Turmoil and Candor

The record was born from a period of transition. All three sisters were single, and the music inhabits that odd in-between place where you're glad to be free, but not quite ready to let go.

The words detail departures and goodbyes. The sisters want love, but not the relationships they've experienced. You can hear them figuring out in real time who they are becoming.

"That's a perfect way of putting it, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is essentially a slogan. You have to make an effort in shutting out the outside opinions and saying, 'I don't give what people think'."

Development of Style

That recent resilience called for a fresh approach – more organic and immediate than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who co-produced the album, that began with the drum sound.

"Percussion is such a nuanced thing, and I care so much about it," she says.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the subject of our biography," jokes Alana. "I've said it, our albums don't start until we find the right drum sound."

Anecdotes and Collective Laughter

The trio's honesty fueled the album's promotional campaign, where the sisters revealed some of their dating misadventures.

One man ended things with Este over a health concern. Alana told a story of flying to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a high five at midnight.

"During these breakups, you just feel like there's only darkness," says Alana. "Thus to be able to laugh at those stories and have them tell you more outrageous stories, it's incredible."

A Secure Future

You can clearly sense a shift in the band. Today, Haim are more assured of their standing in the rock pantheon.

They're major draws, with successful albums and an worldwide audience.

Yet Haim will always be their primary priority.

"We have been playing music since I was a young child," concludes Alana. "It's like no alternative that we were supposed to do. And I'm really fortunate we've made it and we're still going strong."